Nothing gets me fired up quicker than the phrase –
You Can Have It All.
A recent cover of Time Magazine showed a couple peacefully resting on the beach with the caption – The Childfree Life: When Having It All Means Not Having Children.
Before I ruffle any feathers, please first, hear my heart – I am grateful that those who don’t want children are choosing not to have them. Secondly, I will not deny that the thought of being within arm’s reach of my husband on a beach feels like a dream come true.
But truth be told, my man and I – we are living the dream, it’s our dream! We chose to have these two boys that fill our home with stickers, sippy cups, hugs, slobbers, and the most amazing laughs you have ever heard. Still – we don’t have it all.
Let’s equate this “having it all” statement to a nice dinner date. And let’s say that it’s the nicest restaurant we could possibly afford. Still, I would have to choose something off the menu. Maybe an appetizer, a steak, even dessert, but I couldn’t have it all. I would place my order, sit back and wait for what I have picked, and then spend the next few minutes enjoying every last bite. Life is just like this.
Right now I am choosing to be a working momma. I admit to struggling not to define myself by either of these titles – the working part or the momma part. Instead, in the working and in the mommy-ing I am doing my best to savor it. Is my plate too full? Yep. Do I sometimes have to pack a to-go bag and do some work at home or maybe even do some grocery shopping on my lunch break, yes, totally. But this is what I choose! And I love it. I am exhausted. I am happy. I am grateful. My heart is full.
Be certain, I am not having it all. And that’s ok! What I am having are these wonderfully delectable moments and I am savoring every memory I can. The truth is. . . children or no children, no one can have it all. And no one person can define what “having it all” means for another.
Someday, when the kids are gone from our nest and my husband and I are on some beach, somewhere we will be reminiscing about these children we raised together and how incredibly blessed we are to have lived in these moments. And we will be grateful that we didn’t fill our plates in an attempt to have it all for we might have been too full to enjoy the meal!
How do you feel about the idea of “having it all”? Think it’s possible?