I would never let my child behave that way, I thought to myself as I was trying to buy groceries. The mom checking out in front of me struggled as her toddler threw a complete fit. The screaming felt like nails on a chalkboard.
Why doesn’t she just…
Fast forward a decade, I was a mom with two kids under the age of 3 with one on the way. As I was checking out at Target, my 18 month old son had lost it. Completely lost it. There was kicking, screaming, tears–it was a full on fit. I was THAT mom. I could feel the stares. I could hear the voices of disapproval. I was embarrassed and there was nothing I could do to control the situation.
My younger self judged THAT mom. My older self now had a different perspective, a more gracious and understanding one because I was THAT mom.
Before becoming a mom, I read all the books and made the best of plans, trying to figure out what to expect and how to be prepared for motherhood. Then reality set in. No one can adequately prepare you for this journey. Here is what to expect,
You can expect to get lots of advice, some appreciated and some not needed.
You can expect to be surprised, by yourself, by others, & by your children.
You can expect your plans to be constantly changing, and your to-do lists constantly growing.
You can expect to learn a lot and realize just how little you really know.
You can expect that you will need God’s grace more than ever.
We’ve all been there. Maybe it wasn’t the check out line with the screaming child, but we’ve all found ourselves in a more contradictory situation than we would have expected. We’ve all been THAT mom.
The mom running late, or the mom who forgot her kids lunch,
or the mom with the rebellious child, or the mom who loses her temper,
the mom who needs grace more than another opinion or judgemental stare.
Maybe the next time you stand behind the screaming child, you will be able to offer grace.
Or the next time you find yourself judging another mom or discussing differences of opinions, you will speak words of grace.
Most importantly though, I hope the next time you find yourself feeling inadequate, at a loss, misunderstood, or merely exhausted, you will find grace.
“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” 2 Corinthians 12:9
Our hope is to not be, yet another voice that is telling you how to be a mom. Grace for moms is a place for you to be encouraged, be challenged, and join in on the conversations, all the while knowing, “It’s Ok, you’re covered.”
What have you learned to expect as a mom? How are you struggling to find grace?